Times of intimate fellowship in the presence of the Lord so that He can prepare you, anoint you and equip you ot fulfill your new assignment as either a husband or wife. He has the needed strength, counsel and wisdom you need to ensure you are ready to take on this responsibility and you will have it imparted to you as you spend time in His presence.
The blessing and endorsment of those in leadership over you including your pastor and parents. If this is a God sent mate then those who have watched over your spiritual development and care most deeply for you should recognize that God has sent you this life time companion and readily give their blessing.
The blessing and endorsement of those in leadership over you including your Pastor and your Parents. If this is a God sent mate, then those who have watched over your spiritual development and care most deeply for you should recognize that God has sent you this life time companion and readily give their blessing.
Counseling sessions by your Pastoral leadership that give you insight and wisdom on how to be successful at marriage. Living successfully within the confines of marriage is not something you were born to know how to do. You must be taught and you will also learn by experience. Schedule counseling sessions with your Pastor or his approved designee prior to marriage. Make sure in these sessions finances, communication, in-law relationships, views on parenting and sex are covered because these are the areas must vulnerable to satanic attack.
Purity in courtship. Save your passion and your sexual intimacy for your wedding night and life-long marriage. Keep your thoughts holy and pure toward your partner and endeavor to save your passionate intimacy for the marriage bed. The fulfillment will be so much more satisfying and intense. Don't be a rerun on your wedding night, let it be the first viewing with all the anticipation and excitement that brings.
Ensuring financial stability. Don't go into your marriage in debt and financially unstable. Don't take long-term debt for wedding expenses into your marriage.
If you have any reservations or concerns about your decision to marry voice them now to people who have wisdom and care about both of you like your pastor or parents. Don't assume that when you get married things will automatically work out. If it is a problem before marriage, it will be an even greater problem after marriage.
If there are young children involved, make sure they are accepting of the marriage and their new parent. Make sure your partner is accepting of your children and prepared to take on parenting responsibilities. Discuss your views on child rearing in detail and be in agreement on key areas such as discipline and appropriate activities for children to participate in. Don't just assume these things will work out now that you are married. Make sure the children respect God's ordained order of life management for their parent, God first, the new spouse second and then the children.
If there are adult children involved, make sure they are accepting of the marriage and their new parent, particularly if this is a second marriage and the children had a strong attachment to the other parent and the parent was loss to death or divorce. Make sure the children respect God's ordained order of life management for their parent, God first, the new spouse second and then the children.
Don't be in a hurry, take your time, enjoy your courtship, put the right foundation in place to have a successful marriage. Be led by peace, and if you don't have it don't get married. Remember the most successful marriages occur when two fulfilled successful singles come together. If you have not experienced success as a single adult, if you are needy insecure and believing that your life is suddenly going to be complete and whole because you have a marriage partner you are sadly mistaken and more than likely not ready for a marriage partner. Be able to look at your single life and say I have accomplished all God wanted me to accomplish as a single adult and I am now ready for my season of marriage. I am whole and complete as a single adult. I am fulfilled as a single adult and now I believe God has brought this person into my life so that we can demonstrate the relationship that Christ is to have to the church and the relationship the church is to have to Christ. If you can honestly say that - get ready and prepare to enjoy the most incredible marriage God can provide!!!
Singles Pleasing the Lord would like to pray this prayer for you:
Father as you have brought this single adult together with their life-time companion, we pray that the engagement will be marked, purity, holiness, wisdom, planning and peace. We pray that their finances are stable so that they can start their relationship out without debt. We pray there parents are supportive and their Pastor is wise and sensitive to the Holy Spirit's leading in his counsel of them. We pray their passion for one another is yielded to and under the control of the Holy Spirit.
We pray that their experiences as a successful single adult will enhance their married life and cause them to be a valuable gift for their partner.
We pray that their wedding is marked by beauty, order and a tangible presence of the Holy Spirit's direction. We pray that Jesus is glorified at the wedding celebration and the honeymoon is marked by anointed sex and fulfillment.
We believe you Father that you mark this wedding and marriage with your stamp of approval and that this marriage will always represent the relationship that Christ and the church have.
Satan we serve you notice that you are not to hinder or interfere in anyway with what God is doing in the life of this engaged single and their partner.
In Jesus Name