QUESTION
Do you recommend that single people should just wait for God to send them somebody or should they be more proactive and seek out new people to meet. I am a 43 year old female and I have never been married and I was always told in the church to wait on God He will send you somebody. I must be honest and admit I am tired of just waiting - maybe I need to be more proactive. Possibly I should invite some of the guys out that attend my church or maybe at least sign up for one of these computerized dating services.
SANCTIFIED SOLUTION
You have indeed been single a while my dear sister. First I think it is very important that you don't get anxious and worried about the fact that you are not married yet. Anxiety and worry create fear and confusion. Anxious, worried single adults are prime targets for desperation and deception.
Remember God knows how old you are and He is not concerned in the least that you are 43 and still not married. Jer 29:11 says I have not lost sight of My plan for you and the Lord says, and it is your welfare I have in mind, not your undoing, for you too, I have a destiny and a hope. God has not forgotten about you or your desire for a marriage partner. Relax! As to whether you should be more aggressive and use a computerized dating service or invite a man out. Proverbs 18:22 says: He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD. This passage seems to indicate that pursuit of a marriage partner should be initiated by the man. If you are interested in receiving a marriage partner from God, you as a Christian single women should not be aggressive in your pursuit of men, but trust God to bring to you the man he wants you to have in your season. Proverbs 3:5-6 says: Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your path. That does not mean you should not attend events where available single men are in attendance, but you should not be aggressive in your approach to them. Let God orchestrate it for you. He orchestrated it for Rebecca and she got Isaac, he orchestrated for Rahab and she got Salmon and he orchestrated for Ruth and she got Boaz.
Isaish 26:3 tells us we can have perfect peace, if we keep our minds on the Lord not on getting married. Your heavenly Father knows what you have need of.